About Us

TheOtherDoor (TOD) portal is a hub for improving your confrontational abilities. 'Confrontational' is big word to describe any situation involves opposing points of view. Whether when negotiating a deal with a business partner, trying to resolve a conflict with a peer or when selling your products to a client you are within a confrontational situation. The same is true when you try to influence your kid to clean up his room or to solve a problem with your spouse. Your daily life, whether on the plant you live in and whether job you have bring about many confrontational situations for you to mange.

TOD was created in order to enhance your confrontational skills – improve your conflict management, negotiation, sales, influencing skills along with giving you guidance about difficult conversations, consensus building and more.

Asaf Shani – the man behind TheOtherDoor

Asaf has been dealing with confrontational situations from January 1998. In the logo slider below you can see some of the clients he's been working with through the years.

After a few years as a consultant in the M & A (Mergers and acquisitions) department at Deloitte & Touche, Asaf turned to the fascinating field of confrontational situations. 'Armed' with academic background in economics, accountancy, law and philosophy (the later two in Masters Degrees) Asaf deliver Workshops, consult and lead Consensus Building and cooperation enhancement processes in organizations world wide.

What TOD has to offer you

Well, first of all a lot of information! You can read posts and watch clip in the Resource Center. Quite of lot of material offered in the resource center is free, you will have to sign up as a Silver member before though. Read our Privacy policy to be rest assured that you information is safe with us. The rest of the material in the resource center is reserve to Gold members. Gold membership is offered to e-courses purchasers only. When you purchase one of our e-courses and adding a small amount in order to become a gold member, you get access to advance information that help you both maintain and improve what you've learnt in the e-course.

In our Shop you can purchase e-books and e-courses about many areas of confrontational situations.

Need specific help, have a situation you need a professional partner to analyze it with and to guide you through? Have a look at our 1:1 consulting services and send a request for your own private consultation session. If you're interested in one of services, please have a look what we offer organizations.

TheOtherDoor Community

This is the whole idea behind the Silver and Gold memberships – creating a community of on going learners understanding that improving one's confrontational ability is a life long journey.

TOD is not an open forum where “the blind lead the blind.”

TOD is a community led by me personally: a place where you can master your conflict management skills, get answers to your questions directly from me, and even receive guidance on your most pressing conflicts. Please read our Terms of Use to know what is expected from the site's members.

Origin of the Name TheOtherDoor (TOD)

Think of conflict management, negotiation or any other confrontational situation as a long hallway with many doors. Those who are untrained tend to enter the first door they encounter—most often the one marked “compromise.”

Compromise means that both sides accept less than they actually want or need. TOD asks the question, “Why is it necessary to accept less?”

The Other Door teaches you to consider the door of compromise as just one of many options available to you. this is the first step of bettering yourself – Nosce Te Ipsum – know thyself and based on this self realization get better by understanding your human characteristics, replacing inaccurate paradigms, filling your toolbox with skills and adding my methodologies to your behavioral inventory.

About “Bill”

In workshops, lengthy explanations tend to produce puzzled expressions on the faces of participants. My remedy is to provide stories, metaphors, and interactive role plays.

My goal was to do the same thing with TOD, so I developed “Bill,” an illustrated character you’ll meet in many places along The Other Door.

You’ll no doubt smile as hapless Bill finds himself in one conflict after another - conflicts with his boss, co-workers, clients, and even his wife and daughter.

Here's a picture of them all:

As you learn the techniques of TOD, you’ll always be one step ahead of Bill. So be patient with him as he learns his lessons along with you.

Still have an unanswered question?

Confrontation situations in general and conflicts in particular are one of life's best self changing environments. Because of that they tend to be confusion and stressful. If you still have a question buzzing in your head, don't hesitate and click the contact for information button below and we'll gladly answer any question you might have.